This article was submitted by Pastor Walker to The New Bulletin
Dr. Tom Walker
Article for Oct.30-2012
A Happy Marriage
A happy marriage begins with a good start. God desires that believers in Christ marry another believer. 2 Cor 6:14-16 says, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? For ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people." The reasoning of the Apostle Paul is that you do not yoke together animals of different kinds, if you expect things to work as they should. You do not yoke together a dog and an ox. It is the proper thing to do to yoke oxen with oxen. It is a good thing to start a marriage relationship with spiritual compatibility.
Love is not selfish; instead, it focuses in on the person who is the object of your love. A loveless marriage is a failing marriage. Love must be cultivated and cared for in a love relationship. Let's use a fireside analogy. When the fire burns low and you want it to burn brighter, you put the poker in the coals and stir them. Why is it so difficult for us to understand that in marriage relationships the same thing needs to apply?
Don't neglect or become careless about your love life in the marriage bond. Do you tell your marriage partner that you love him or love her? You might say, "She knows I love her." Well, she may know that, but she still wants to hear it come from your lips out of your heart. It helps to hear you say it, but don't dismiss the fact you are to prove it as well in your conduct and attitudes. If what you do does not match up with what you say, your marriage partner will have problems with you.
In addition, commitment is an important ingredient of a marriage that works. At the marriage altar most vows incorporate these words: "For richer or poorer, for better or worse, in sickness and in health, till death shall part you." Almost everyone wants to stick with a marriage partner who is getting richer, getting better all the time, and who is never sick. But your vows tell you if your marriage partner doesn't have much money, if he or she is getting worse instead of better, or if health begins to fail in your husband of wife, you are to be committed to the degree you will follow through with the commitment you made at the marriage altar. You should not renege on the vows you give at the wedding ceremony. People committed to their marriage relationship do not have sexual affairs with other people.
It is people who are committed to a good cause who succeed in social life. In comparison, it is partners who are committed to one another in the marriage bond that make a successful marriage. If your marriage is not what it ought to be, don't blame it all on your marriage partner. More blame might rest on you for the failure than the one to whom who are married.
Article by Dr. Tom Walker
Pastor-Zion Hill Baptist Church
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